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‘Mercy, not hate:’ Award-winning Fairhaven professor organizes outreach after racist incident

Photo courtesy of Breyan Haizlip

By Stella Harvey and Audra Anderson

After a long day of appointments, Breyan Haizlip sat in her office, the room radiating essential oils, the walls covered with banners of different chakras. The assistant professor at Fairhaven College describes herself as a seer-sage-scientist, combining her knowledge of neuroscience with her healing nature.

On Tuesday, Jan. 22, Haizlip’s family was kicked out of their daughter’s basketball game at Squalicum High School in an event the school has since described as “racially motivated.” Three days earlier, on Jan. 19, Breyan was awarded the 2019 Rev. Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. Unity Award by the Whatcom Human Rights Task Force at the organization’s Unity Ball. The Unity Ball came after the 21st annual Rev. Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. Human Rights Saturday Conference, a day-long conference with workshops and community resource tables.

Amanda Grelock, head of diversity and inclusion at the Community Food Co-op and one of the organizers of the Unity Ball, said Haizlip was chosen as this year’s recipient because she wants to make Bellingham’s community better. Grelock said when she is faced with difficult conversations, Haizlip always leans in and listens.

After moving to Bellingham with her husband, Adam Haizlip, and three daughters just over a year ago, Breyan has brought her work to more than just Western students. She said she also works with the community through Momentum Counseling and Consulting, her private practice.

Breyan said her counseling work in Bellingham began when the Community Food Co-op asked her to host an event because they were having issues with discrimination and connecting with the community. Breyan said any work she does begins with assessment, which is why the first step she took was organizing and facilitating a town hall meeting in February 2018 where people could voice their concerns and help the Co-op become a more socially responsible business.

“I think it really helped to introduce the way I approach equity, diversity and inclusion,” Breyan said, “[Because] it’s different. It’s specifically about not retraumatizing one another through doing this work for our ancestors, but instead doing it for our great grandchildren.”

Breyan said after the town hall, she was approached by people who wanted to work with her privately. So, in August 2018, Breyan decided to open a small practice in downtown Fairhaven.

“I was kind of on this adventure of [asking] what happens if I just say yes to what life asks of me and instead of always asking my life for something,” Breyan said.

After receiving an overwhelming response to her practice, Breyan moved to a larger location on Lincoln Street in January 2019, where she also offers small classes ranging from open journal nights to diversity trainings.

Breyan said coming to teach at Western was a gift she gave to herself. She said teaching psychology in Fairhaven College allows her to teach without boundaries, something she has struggled with at other institutions.

“I am a healer, but I am also a teacher,” Breyan said. “[My work] is really anchored in the intention of being a catalyst for people’s awakening.”

Since starting in October 2017, Breyan has taught a variety of psychology courses at Fairhaven, including the psychology of race and racism, the psychology of love, lust and attraction, and analysis of individual identity. Breyan said no matter what topic she’s teaching, every course begins with practicing meditation and making sure her students understand how the brain works.

Naomi Edelstein, a fourth-year Fairhaven student studying somatic sexology, described Breyan as a goddess. Edelstein, who has been a student of Breyan’s for over a year, said her professor radiates love and honesty.

“There’s so much [to Breyan],” Edelstein said. “It means something that I’m taking a third class with her.”

Breyan and Adam Haizlip at the 2019 Rev. Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. Unity Ball. // Photo courtesy of Breyan Haizlip

Breyan and her husband, Adam Haizlip, are also part of the Whatcom Diversity Academy, a cooperative of training consultants who help organizations develop leadership through culturally responsive and multicultural training, according to their website.

Adam is also a professor at Fairhaven College, and is currently teaching a course called the African American Experience. Both Breyan and Adam participated in the Rev. Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. Human Rights Saturday Conference on Jan. 19, where they spoke and held workshops on equity, diversity and inclusion. That evening at the Unity Ball, Breyan received the Unity Award.

Three days later, on Tuesday, Jan. 22, Adam and his family were removed from his daughter’s Squalicum High School varsity basketball game after he asked the referee about a foul call made in the game.

Spectators watched uncomfortably, but did nothing, as the African-American father of three was escorted out of the gym, according to a brief written by the principal of the high school, Miguel Perez. In the communication to students and parents, Perez said the incident appeared to be racially motivated.

“The timing was hard,” Breyan said. “We had just partied with Bellingham and everyone was just so uplifted, and it was just a fall from a big high.”

On Saturday, Jan. 28, 121 people showed up to the same gym to support the Haizlip family and the varsity girls’ basketball team, carrying signs of solidarity and encouragement.

Breyan created a Facebook event calling for friends and strangers alike to come support her husband, their family and the girl’s basketball team. The event was named “Support our DAD’s (Demonstrate Appreciation for Diversity).”

“We cheered without anybody worrying we were going to get kicked out,” Breyan said tearfully of Saturday night’s game.

Breyan watched her husband and daughters pick up garbage left behind in the emptied out gym, long after the game had ended and the euphoria of the home team’s win had worn off. Adam, a former high school and collegiate athlete, never misses one of his daughter’s games, she said.

“Number one: I have all daughters,” Adam said. “So presence [is important], letting them know no matter what they’re going through — positive, negative, their challenging moments — dad is going to be there.”

Adam and Breyan spent all of Saturday’s game in the front row of the bleachers starting chants for their daughter’s team. Chants often began with foot stomping, crescendoing into words of positive affirmation like, “We are proud of you! I said, we are proud of you!”

Adam also encouraged the rival team, congratulating the girls on scoring plays.

“Tonight I felt community. I didn’t feel alone,” Adam said. “That day in the gym I felt alone. Just me and my babies. I have a duty to protect them, and I can’t protect them if I’m in handcuffs or if I’m in a fight … I had to speak policies and truth.”  

Ryan Peters, a friend of the Haizlips, attended the game, holding high a handmade sign that read, “Work together!”

“I think it’s important for people to make relationships with people from different cultures and backgrounds,” Peters said. “That’s the way the world is moving and we should embrace our similarities.”

Another supporter, Crystal Bevis, described the Saturday game as peaceful and supportive. Bevis, who has lived in Bellingham for over 20 years, said she was sad to hear about the incident on Tuesday, but she wasn’t surprised.

“I’ve had experiences like that living here, even though I love it,” Bevis said.

Although the situation was traumatic for the Haizlips, both parents said they were grateful the incident happened to them because they have the resources, training and patience necessary to deal with the aftermath of a racially-charged situation.

“We wanted to send so much love,” Breyan said. “We did not want to let anybody demonize him. We wanted to reach out to him with love, say, ‘Come over for a meal, chill.’ It was scary for him too.”

Squalicum High School’s Communications Manager Dana Smith said as a former teacher in the school system, she was saddened to hear about the incident.

“It was really unfortunate what happened,” Smith said. “We want all of our families to feel safe and welcome here.”

Since the incident, the Haizlips have been working with the Bellingham School District to instill a curriculum called Cultural Responsivity Training for Educators (CRTE), they said. Breyan said the curriculum treats racism as a wound and the training as healing work.

“No one changes from shame,” she said. “[In the training] we are calling people in instead of calling people out. Our schools need that. Our teachers need that.”

Edelstein, who has been a student of Breyan’s for over a year, said her heart dropped when she heard about the incident. Breyan read her Facebook post to the class after the incident, Edelstein said.

“Dr. Bre was reading it to us in class and crying,” Edelstein said. “She was really vulnerable in sharing where her life is at right now. She also told us she was telling her kids ‘That isn’t what white people do, those were the actions of one white man.’ She didn’t want her kids growing up being fearful or hateful of white people.”

To Breyan, the incident was a beautiful opportunity to grow, she said.

“Mercy, not hate,” Breyan said. “I tell my daughters, ‘Mercy is that which you give to those who don’t deserve it in the hopes of it coming back to you.’”

Sitting on the lime green couch in her office days after her family’s demonstration, Breyan reflected on what real change would look like. She said if school districts or government officials want to address their equity, diversity and inclusion problems, they have to include the people who are most impacted.

Breyan said she wants her family to have a seat at the table when these discussions are happening, and because she happens to be an psychology nerd, she is uniquely equipped to help Bellingham schools address these issues.

“I know how powerful the work we already do [is],” Breyan said. “I see how much it changes people and the organizational culture [and] I want my daughters to have teachers and administrators who have had that opportunity to do this kind of introspective work.”

For more information on Breyan’s private practice or Whatcom Diversity academy, visit drbre.com and whatcomdiversityacademy.com


  1. As soon as a Black woman does something GOOD- all of a sudden people that have never worked with her have decide to figure out a way to turn her into a monster.

    For all the negative comments about her, none of them come from anyone who has actually had her aS professor. She has only been at Western for a year and has some of the highest and consistent teaching reviews in Fairhaven.

    And it takes a miracle to get into her classes because they are so INCREDIBLE. I have had 2 classes now with Dr. Bre and they have changed my life as a student and as a person. I recommend her classes to ANYONE and everyone!!!! She also has been doing FB LIVE for her classes since last year and my parents and I watch them and have had some great discussions about the lectures. We talk about open access to our educational experience to people who can’t go to college. EDUCATION is a privilege that everyone does not get!!!

    And as a student, I am currently taking the Psychology of Race and Racism and I took Social Media/Social Psychology and the Dysfunctional Family with her and she teaches us about INFORMED CONSENT and we all, as a class, have to unanimously agree on recording and LIVE STREAMING. If even one class mate does not want to record- WE DON’T.

    So maybe folks should remember that Dr. Bre teaches us about self-sovereignty and FERPA and our rights to participate. She spends the first week of the class ONLY TALKING ABOUT CONSENT before students decide if they want to participate in the class BEFORE registration closes. She has done this in every class.

    She also delivered a powerful talk and workshop at the Ethnic Student Conference at the beginning of this year that left us all feeling EMPOWERED for the start of the term. ANd NOW…It is clear that the hateful comments are from people that have never met her. She’s been a huge source of healing for sooooooo many people.

    Why wouldn’t Western just say job well done! Even if someone doesn’t like her- what part of the article is false? These comments are what RACISM LOOKS LIKE in Bellingham. I’m glad that despite the hate, she keep helping us grow and heal. She’s the best teacher I ever had.

  2. this article is actually lowkey problematic ( but no shocker ) and came at an interesting time considering the professor recently literally bullied a black wwu student on Facebook live during a class and had her students record it and post it.. but mercy, not hate!!!

  3. I think the article said that she teaches psychology courses in Fairhaven College, but it seems to be about community recognition from the Whatcom Human Rights Task Force and Unity Ball organizers, of a female professor’s equity and inclusion work in the Bellingham community. She received the award and then organized a peaceful rally to support men of color having the right to feel safe at School District games. I attended the rally and it was incredible to see our community come together in that way to support a black family. Why would you attack this woman and her family with accusations about something completely unrelated to the article? Why would you attempt to discredit a black families efforts in Bellingham or minimize the racially motivated discrimination that she and her family experienced in our town? Your comments seem like another attack on this female professor, her husband who is also an instructor, and the community groups that recognized her effort as having done some good. It’s a good thing that they responded peacefully and with resilience in a situation that was clearly racial discrimination admitted by Bellingham School District administration in a public letter. We can all learn from that. Your comments are just an example of what happens to woman and the FEW black families in our community that want to help. If the Bellingham and Whatcom community thought she was deserving because of the work she is doing OUTSIDE OF THE CLASSROOM then you should not attack her or her family for doing that work. It’s what many of us want to see in our community. This is sad. I hope this family remains in Bellingham and at Western. We need families of color to participate in any way they are willing to. When do we get tired of running people of color and women of color out of our community? This hostility towards her and her family is just terrible.

  4. My critique is the characterization of this professor. I have experience with Fairhaven and these quotes are cherry picking, at best. Many other students have terrible and inappropriate interactions with her.

    She’s also not a psychologist, she’s a counselor educator. Counselor educators are not trained with the same rigor regarding research and teaching. (Check her CV, if you can find it, which should be easily searchable if you’re a faculty member.) Her classes are nothing more than group therapy she tries to mask as a teaching style, yet never offers any sources demonstrating the efficacy and safety of the method.

    • It is interesting how you are making comments about someone’s livelihood, characterization, and credibility by hearing accounts from students and not from your own account. I would suggest that you sit down and have conversation with Dr. Haizlip before going in for the attack based off other people situations. From your comment it looks like you maybe cherry picking what you want to write and not using necessary critical thinking skills i.e.speaking from your own experience.

      From what I know I have the complete opposite experience with Dr. Haizlip in the professional realm. The experiences I’ve had with her have been nothing but life changing. She approaches every situation with heart and challenges students to think beyond the bias’s and institutional behavior that has been programmed by our education system. The above article is my opinion is right on and actually doesn’t give enough into the amazing work Dr. Haizlip does for our community.

      Also, take in mind just because someone is not trained in what you think rigor and research should look like does not mean they are not equipped to do the job. There are many people in our systems who have what you think are the accreditation needed to do a job and are not even showing up in an ounce of the way that Dr. Haizlip does.

      I encourage you to have more conversations.

      • hi amanda, people have sat down and have had discussions with her, that is where the comments came from! it’s crazy how people’s experiences- especially people of color- continually gets disregarded on this campus! thank you for proving that point with your statement! Im glad you had opposite experiences, but surprisingly, not everyone has the same experience when talking to the same person, that is how we are i.e. speaking from our own experiences!

    • Teri, nowhere in the article does it allege that Dr. Haizlip is a “psychologist” although it does say that she teaches psychology (true to my knowledge) and that she is a self-described psychology nerd (neither here nor there). Her website, and this article, say she is an LMHC and an LPC, therefore she is at least a trained counselor/therapist with a PhD. On paper that sounds like as much qualification as other Fairhaven professors I’ve heard of? While I’ve heard some concerning rumors I think that criticism should be fair.

    • I think this article is a fantastic representation of a woman and a family who are a blessing to our community.

      I am disappointed in a couple of these comments. It is disheartening to see an individual stand up and do so much, accept such a large portion of the burden for change in our community, and have a positive impact on so many, for folks to focus on a miniscule counter-narrative to attempt to discredit all that is positive.

      I have attended dialogues and trainings with Dr. Haizlip that have been transformational to those in attendance, as well as to those impacted by shifted perspectives, dialogues, empathy and compassion as a result of her work. Dr. Haizlip inspires compassion while not being afraid to call us on our unhealthy thought processes, perspectives and behaviors, and she does so with love and integrity. Is the message hard to hear at times? Absolutely. Can the conversation get uncomfortable at times? You bet. Is it a good thing that the conversation is finally happening, and a dialogue is starting? You better believe it! Did we expect a radical shift in status quo to come from a status quo personality, a routine perspective, a classic school of thought, or a prescribed way of doing things? Apparently so, but I’m not sure why.

      I am forever grateful for the effect Dr. Haizlip has had on me and my environment, and I feel her energy is a much needed shift that our community will only benefit from if we can check our bias, listen with intention and stop being so quick to throw the woman of color under the bus because she brings new methods and perspectives. I will base my opinions on my own experiences and not on the bias of others.

  5. Unfortunately that’s the way it be in Bellingham for a long long time… there’s always seem to be quite the disconnect between the university & the rest of town. In particular the white folks, who can be out right hostile to POC (Native, Black, & Latinos in particular).


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