My boyfriend seems to be taking me for granted lately and paying less attention to me when we’re together. I know he loves me and that’s not an issue, but it seems like he feels he doesn’t have to put effort into our relationship. I’ve already tried talking to him about it, I don’t know what else to do!
Loved but Lonely
Dear Loved but Lonely,
Communication is absolutely key. If your boyfriend seems distant, approach him and tell him so. You don’t have to accuse him of anything, just express your feelings and listen to his response. There could be a lot of reasons why he seems distant, but you might not know exactly what it is unless you ask. Don’t worry; if you can make it to the end of fall quarter, this should be easy-peasy.
I have finals almost every day during finals week. I don’t think I can survive. Do you have any tips for keeping up my momentum for that long?
Dear Slowly Dying,
First of all, please don’t die; you’re almost there so there’s no need for that. Don’t worry, I’ve been in your position too. I won’t lie, it’s going to be tough. But stock up on some quality caffeine and snacks, lock the doors and bar the windows and sit tight until it’s over.
Oh, wait, that’s how to survive the beginning of the zombie apocalypse. What you should actually do is designate some time during your day to study for each final. Make the earliest tests top priority and don’t forget to take breaks in between. Plus, get plenty of sleep and stay away from too many Doritos.
Hang in there; you got this!
I really like a girl I met in one of my classes this quarter. We talk everyday and have hung out a few times with some mutual friends outside of class. I’ve been too scared to tell her how I feel, but next quarter we don’t have any classes together and she’s going to be really busy with an internship. What should I do?
Super Sweaty Senior
Dear Super Sweaty Senior,
No need to perspire over this issue. It’s scary to tell someone you like them. That’s why kids just throw rocks and pull hair. However, that is not a solution I’d recommend in this situation.
Instead, why not just ask her to have coffee or join you for a study session and just hang out like normal? Then, when you’re talking, just tell her you’ve got something important you want to tell her. There’s no guarantee what she’ll say, but at least you won’t be left wondering what would have happened.